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Holy SHIT

I take back every disparaging thing I’ve EVER said about the decision to remake Carrie.

That was.  Flawless.  They even managed to update it without making it feel forced Jesus fucking Christ.

That was actually better than the original what the FUCK.

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I’m about to make a long post explaining exactly why the insistence on a binary in wicca is complete bullshit based in modern Christian ideas of gender and gender roles and is transphobic as fuck and needs to stop.

/prepares to become wiccan pariah

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underthewetmoon replied to your post “underthewetmoon replied to your post:So I’ve officially started ID-ing…”

Consider it pay back for the Heathers musical?

Well fuck me gently with a chainsaw.

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yaffyaff:

flikky:

grajing:

yaffyaff:

For the record, pretty much everyone I’ve seen talking about identifying as “demigirl” or playing around with the term (including myself) has used it as a term that means “Well, I’m SORT of a girl, but mostly nonbinary of a sort.”

If that helps at all.

Yeah, I totally understand that. I think I quite like it in that sense, but there’s something about it that makes me feel like it doesn’t convey that clearly to other people.

SORRY PRUNING THIS BACK A BIT IT’S A BIT LONG

But yeah, I get what you’re saying, and I feel like part of that is the prevalence/insistence on a binary.

It’s like, you say “agender” or “nonbinary” or “genderqueer” and it automatically gets across the idea of “I am neither a woman nor a man” even to the MOST binary-entrenched person (whether or not they believe it’s a Thing is a whole other matter, though).

But saying “demigirl” to someone who thinks the binary is The Way Things Are can imply to them “I am some of a girl and some of a boy.”

And I’m not sure if there really IS a way to fix that?  Except the universal abolishing of the idea of the gender binary, but that’s not really a short-term, small-scale solution … 

I’m sure there IS a term out there that could be better for you, I’m just not sure what it is. :T

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Omfg the pumpkin festival! I used to go in high school with my friends but I heard about the riots and I’m like fuck white men just fuck them. They ruin literally everything

lmaooooooooooo omg was it bad when you were actually going?

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grajing:

yaffyaff:

Trying to find a way to positively communicate my gender and my feelings that surround has been increasingly difficult. I find it hard to talk about me when folks ask me for a simple label. That’s probably helped by the fact that I find it hard to talk about me period; it’s easier for me to deflect a question about how I’m feeling with a discussion of literature or work or philosophy or a technical detail than for me to answer honestly. In fact, that’s such a common result for me that my therapist had to ban us from making literary allusions in sessions because I’d discuss how I felt about Dostoyevsky’s use of claustrophobia instead of my own anxieties. (Aside: discovering that many other folks with ADHD share this trait has made me feel a lot better about it)

But those labels are hard. I like non-binary because it’s honest about how I’ve felt for a long, long time: man or woman is not a choice I feel comfortable with. I don’t feel at all like I identify as male. I’ve never been really comfortable being a guy, a boy, a man, a dude, a gay man, a son, or a brother. I’ve been trying “genderqueer” on for size via twitter for a while; one of my roommates has said for a while that the way I present is exactly what he imagines when he thinks about that term. But there are a whole host of associations with that term that I’m not sure I really feel comfortable with. Demigirl might be a good term, but I don’t feel great about saying that I’m “demi” anything. And what of the other part implied by demi? What is that? I don’t see it as male, so what is it?

Positive statements here are tricky. I feel better wearing skirts and dresses, but I don’t want to do so all the time. I like makeup, but I hate that I feel obligated to wear it to be read as something other than masculine. The majority of media I enjoy has been characterized as “for girls” or “for women” or “for ladies”. I long for kung-fu heroines, but I worry I’m replacing one set of unrealistic tropes with another. I love cute and girly, but I hate essentialism and the tendency to channel cute culture into capitalism. I don’t feel like I have the right kind of body, but that’s got far more to do with feeling like I don’t look great in the blouses and dresses I like than my genitals.

I keep waking up thinking “what the hell am I?” And I don’t have a good answer. I just have a creeping sense that I must be a horrible fake or a disgusting weirdo or completely lost within my psychological complexities or a fool or a mistake. That creeping sense keeps me from talking a lot of the time.

what if your gender is What

you are Whatgendered

I do think that ‘demigirl’ does not imply that the other part is ‘dude’. it only specifies half of it, and the other part is deliberately unspecified.

For the record, pretty much everyone I’ve seen talking about identifying as “demigirl” or playing around with the term (including myself) has used it as a term that means “Well, I’m SORT of a girl, but mostly nonbinary of a sort.”

If that helps at all.

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Congrats! :D It’s always such a relief to find a term that actually fits what’s going on in your head and with your body and experiences.

Thank you!  It’s actually, like, 85% your fault, so really, thank you.

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I just heard about that like an hour ago and I still can’t wrap my head around how you can squeeze so much awful into a tiny New England town??? Fucking PUMPKIN riots??!? Has there ever been something so disgustingly pointless

APPARENTLY IT’S JUST A BUNCH OF FUCKING CIS WHITE DOUCHEBRO COLLEGE ASSHOLES FROM NH/MA WHO, LIKE, HAVE BEEN DOING THIS FOR A COUPLE OF YEARS NOW

AND THE TOWN REFUSES TO FUCKING DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT EXCEPT HAVE MORE AMBULANCES ON HAND????????

LIKE

FUCKING MEN

AND FUCKING NEW HAMPSHIRE

NEW HAMPSHIRE IS FUCKING AWFUL

NEW HAMPSHIRE IS FUCKING TEXAS LITE

ASK ELI, THEY’RE ALL APPARENTLY A BUNCH OF FUCKING TEXAS EX-PATS WHO JUST DIDN’T LIKE HOW HOT TEXAS WAS

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Oh my fucking God, you know that town in New Hampshire that fucking rioted over fucking pumpkins?

Apparently it’s the town that we took a day trip to when we spent the month in Vermont last year and we went into a Joann’s for, like, half an hour, and we came back out and the fucking bumper of the car we were driving was hanging off.

That fucking town is AWFUL.

Burn it to the ground.

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So I’ve officially started ID-ing as “femme agender” in all my Nix Finch stuff and actually it feels kinda … right.

Like I still have that “eh” reaction to be gendered as a woman, but the more I actually actively encourage and use this identity, the more I feel like there’s actually something substantial here instead of just the passing, casual acceptance I had with “woman.”

It feels … sort of weird?  But like, in a way that … I was a ten-sided peg sitting in a circular hole that just found out there was a ten-sided hole a little further along.  Like technically fit in that circular hole, but the ten-sided hole fits slightly better and more comfortably.

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